How to Use a Sex Machine: Settings, Positions and First Sessions

The quick version

Start at the lowest speed and the shortest stroke. Always.
Depth isn't a setting. It comes from where the machine sits, so adjust position before you adjust dials.
Use plenty of water-based lube, and keep the bottle within reach.
Learn how to stop the machine before you start it.
Keep your first session short and unhurried.
Clean attachments with warm water and mild soap; keep water away from the motor.

What Is a Sex Machine, Exactly?

Floor-standing sex machine showing the motor base, arm and rod, attachment and controls

Every thrusting machine is four parts. The base holds the motor and does the work. The arm and rod carry the movement. The attachment is the dildo that clicks onto the end. And the controls - a dial, a remote or an app depending on the model - set how fast and how far it all moves.

It helps to think of it less as a toy and more as a piece of equipment you learn, the way you'd learn any new gear. Nobody's first go on anything is their best go, and that's fine. The machine will still be there for session two.

What the Settings Do

Speed is how often the stroke arrives. Stroke length is how far the rod travels each pass. On most machines stroke length is set by hand before you start, and speed is what you adjust as you go.

Here's the part nobody tells beginners: depth is not on the controller. How deep the stroke actually lands depends on where the machine sits relative to your body. Moving it slightly closer or further, or putting a pillow under your hips, changes depth more than any setting. If something feels shallow or too much, move first, adjust dials second.

One more thing worth knowing before you compare models: speed and stroke trade off against each other. Short strokes can run fast; long strokes run slower. Pair short with fast for intensity, or long with slow for depth - you'll find your combination somewhere between the two.

Before You Start: A Five-Minute Checklist

Space: enough floor for the machine and for you, near a power point - most machines are mains-powered.
Surface: something the machine can't slide on. Carpet is good; add a mat on tiles or floorboards.
Comforts: a towel down, pillows for positioning, water within reach.
Lube: water-based, close enough to grab mid-session without stopping everything.
The dry run: before anything touches you, run the machine clothed. Work through the speeds, adjust the angle, and practise turning it off until finding the stop is automatic.

Your First Session, Step by Step

Set the machine to its shortest stroke and lowest speed while it's switched off. Apply more lube than you think you need. Line the machine up so contact feels right at slow speed - move the machine or yourself rather than reaching for the dials. Then give your body time to settle in before changing anything.

When you do want more, change one thing at a time - a little more speed, or a little more depth by repositioning - and give each change a minute before judging it. Keep the whole session short and end while it still feels good. You're learning what your body enjoys, not racing anyone.

Positions for Beginners

Position	Good for	Tip
On your back	The easiest starting point - most control, easiest to reach the machine	A pillow under your hips fine-tunes the angle
All fours	A deeper, more assertive angle	Height matters here - adjust the machine, not your knees
Edge of the bed	Comfort, and easy partner involvement	Machine on the floor, you at mattress height
Kneeling upright	More control over pace and depth with your own body	Brace on something solid so you can move freely

Common Beginner Mistakes (and the Fix)

The mistake	The fix
Starting too fast, too deep	Shortest stroke, lowest speed, every first session
Too little lube	Machines keep a rhythm instead of responding to one - use more, top up often
Chasing depth with the stroke dial	Depth is position - move the machine or add a pillow
Machine sliding mid-session	Brace it or move it to a grippier surface before you start
Changing speed and stroke together	One change at a time, so you know what did what

Using It With a Partner

A machine doesn't replace a partner - it frees one up. While it handles the rhythm, your partner's hands and attention go everywhere else, which is a genuine upgrade on doing everything at once.

Talk before you buy. Share what appeals to you about it, ask what your partner thinks, and agree on boundaries the same way you would with any new addition to the bedroom. If one of you feels uneasy, that conversation matters more than the machine does. And once it's in the room, handing over the remote is the simplest way to make it a shared thing rather than a solo thing someone watches.

Aftercare and Cleaning

Afterwards: machine off and unplugged, water for you, and a moment to check in with yourself or each other - machines can be surprisingly intense, and a strong reaction either way is normal.

Clean the attachment with warm water and mild soap, and let it air dry fully before it's stored. Wipe the machine body with a barely damp cloth, keeping water well away from the motor and ports. Going from anal to vaginal use means a proper wash or a fresh condom on the attachment - every time.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do sex machines hurt?

Not used properly. Start small and slow, use plenty of lube, and stop on any sharp pain - bleeding means stop and seek medical care. For anal, the attachment must have a flared base, and skip numbing products entirely - feeling what's happening is your safety system.

How loud are they?

It's a mechanical hum rather than silence. In a share house, pick your moment or pick a quieter model - the quiet machines guide rounds up the ones that run quietest, and a machine that has become loud can usually be fixed.

How long should a session run?

Shorter than you think for the first few. Machines also appreciate a rest on long sessions - if it's hot, give it a break. Nothing in the range is waterproof, so the shower is not part of the plan.

What if my machine gets noisy over time?

Usually a loose screw or a rod that needs grease, not a dying motor. The maintenance guide covers the ten-minute diagnostic.

Ready When You Are

Machines ship from our Australian warehouses in plain packaging with a discreet billing descriptor, with free shipping over $99 and same-day dispatch before 10am. If you're choosing your first machine, the model guide sorts the whole range by the questions that matter - and the beginner's guide covers what a first order actually needs.

Last updated: 17 July 2026